Genuine Communication and the Role of Negativity in Relationships

While I have moved away from calling myself things like a “Modern Gender Traditionalist” over that last year, I still participate in what is arguably a traditional marriage relationship and a traditionally female role in life. Unfortunately, it’s been a while since I wrote on anything related to the Traditionalism I originally built this blog around- and for that I apologize. Things haven’t been easy over the last year, but I’m hoping to get back into the swing of things soon… Starting with talking about something that bothers me quite often concerning some (unfortunately) fairly common relationship advice.

I’ve touched on it before briefly, but after reading a different article today I’ve decided to remove its mentions from the original posts, and talk about it in a post of its own; it’s an important topic that I feel needs to be addressed a bit more in depth than in passing mention. Continue reading “Genuine Communication and the Role of Negativity in Relationships”

Facing Bigotry Part 2; Deconstructing Arguments Against Housewifery

Absurdly Long Post; 5.5k+ words

Elsie over at Sweet Baby Cadillac offered a beautiful response to an article that almost had me on the verge of seething by the end of it when I read it myself. Once I managed to collect myself, however, I felt like I should give my response as well. The reason for that is that Elsie covered a lot of the basics, but her view is neither the only one nor a complete view of why some of us do what we do- and if you are going to do what basically and ultimately amounts to closedmindedly degrading the lifestyle choices of others, you should certainly take the time to read a multitude of viewpoints before doing so. Continue reading “Facing Bigotry Part 2; Deconstructing Arguments Against Housewifery”

Facing Bigotry Part 1; Why I Do What I Do

Long Post; 3k+ words

Elsie over at Sweet Baby Cadillac offered a beautiful response to an article that almost had me on the verge of seething by the end of it when I read it myself. Once I managed to collect myself, however, I felt like I should give my response as well. The reason for that is that Elsie covered a lot of the basics, but her view is neither the only one nor a complete view of why some of us do what we do- and if you are going to do what basically and ultimately amounts to closedmindedly degrading the lifestyle choices of others, you should certainly take the time to read a multitude of viewpoints before doing so. Continue reading “Facing Bigotry Part 1; Why I Do What I Do”

Marriage Should Change Nothing

My Husband and I are coming up on our one year anniversary in March and I honestly could not be happier with our arrangement… Since the moment we signed the Wedding Certificate, however, we have been bombarded with a host of questions; people have been asking us things like “so what’s it like to be married?” or “how does it feel?”.

In all honesty, I was never sure what they were expecting; I couldn’t for the life of me understand the obvious fishing… And then one day after looking at Marriage articles online I finally figured it out.
Continue reading “Marriage Should Change Nothing”

The Concept of “Dating With Purpose”

Dating culture is strange to me; the ideology that you should “date with purpose”, being picky about who you choose to date and only dating those you view as having the potential to be a future spouse. Maybe it comes from the fact that I seem to have a different ideology concerning dating than most do. Continue reading “The Concept of “Dating With Purpose””

Why My Husband and I Have Never Argued

I see so many relationships around me where I am taken aback by the way they treat one another. I find myself thinking “They’re really married?” regularly whenever I see them interact- and many of them end up divorced by the end of the year.

Most of it, I have found, has to do with how they talk to one another- and by that, I mean that they are often arguing regularly, and usually violently. As a result, I often judge the happiness and fulfillment of a couple predominantly based on how often they argue or fight with one another, how intense those fights are, and what they are about.

I can proudly say, however, that my Husband and I have never done this.  Continue reading “Why My Husband and I Have Never Argued”

3 Keys to Success; The “Unobtainable” Image of the Housewife

I hear it time and time again: The image of the traditional housewife is unrealistic and unobtainable for any woman.

The argument is that no woman on the planet is capable of stepping out of the pages of something like The Good Wife’s Guide and being the immaculate traditional Housewife that women are expected to be; that the expectations are unrealistic and are ultimately unobtainable for any single person in existence. Continue reading “3 Keys to Success; The “Unobtainable” Image of the Housewife”

[Recipe] Merging a Family

Getting married comes with a lot of baggage that no one often expects. There is the name change process (should you choose to change your name), the pressure from family concerning potential bouncing offspring, dealing with differing familial traditions, and so much more. Even the work that is put in to creating your own household is enormous and under appreciated among the general populace.

One of those road bumps for my Husband and I has been the idea of food. Continue reading “[Recipe] Merging a Family”